High Maintanence women vs. Low Maintanence Women

This post stems from a running joke my hubby and I have had almost since we have been together. It is based on a scene in the movie "When Harry Met Sally" with Billy Crytal and Meg Ryan (think late 80's early 90's). This movie has so many great one liners for a romantic comedy. One has really stuck with us.

There is scene where both actors are watching the old movie Casablanca with Ingrid Bergman. Billy Crytal comments on how Ingrid Bergman is definitely a low maintance woman. When Meg Ryan asks if she's high or low maintanence, he replies. "You are the worst kind, you are high maintanence but you think you are low maintanence. " After the first time my hubby and I watched this movie together, (we were dating at the time) he said... "Oh my, that is you to a tee!".. I was kind of offended at the time... But over the time I've forgiven him and even married him despite it ;). However, I came to realize today, it might really be true (God help me!).

I just came to realize that it depends on what your definition of high and low maintanence is. To me I never considered myself high maintanence. In my mind high maintanence women are the fru fru bottled blonde nouvex rich bimos who get botox and plastic surgery and spend all their time going to the gym, or having their hair highlighted and fancy spa treatments at astronomically expensive salons. These same women DEMAND their husbands full attention and full wallet for whatever tickles their fancies.

I never considered myself high maintanence because of the following:

Botox or plastic surgery will never grace this body. I believe in growing old gracefully. Fortunately, I have inherited good aging genes from my Mom.

I do my own hair color, only getting a hair cut a few times a year.

I rarely get manicures , usually only on 'girl days' with my niece. I polish my nails myself every few days

I don't go to the gym (one of my downfalls). I just try to walk alot every day.

Other than a touch up of my grays , my hair is more or less it's natural color

I don't have expensive taste in clothing, preferring classic clothing over trendy expensive stuff.

When it comes to making demands on my husband and his time, I tread carefully rarely demanding he change his plans in favor of something I want to do. We both have a large need for 'me' time and I respect that about him.

I am an independent type. I don't NEED my husband constantly around. I want him around.

However, not to sound perfect (none of us are)... I have my downfalls which makes my hubby see me as being high maintanence. Here are just a few of them:

Very rarely will I leave the house without makeup on. This goes back to high school when my complexion was not as good and I used makeup to hide it. Plus I just don't feel 'put together' without it.

Unless I'm going to work out or going for a walk, you will rarely see me in sweats in public.

Unless I'm working out, going camping, or doing manual labor I rarely wear traditional tennis shoes. I have been on kick of wearing Sketchers the past year or so. They look like Mary Jane flats but have a tennis shoe bottom.. Kind of a girly tennis shoe.

While i'm not big on spending money on traditional 'female items' like beauty, home decor, expensive clothing/accesories etc. I am insistent on having the best I can get in my kitchen. I have spent hundreds of dollars outfitting my kitchen over the past few years.


So you can see I have my faults too, does this make me high maintanence? hmmm something to ponder.


Well,thanks for reading... if you have any comments on the status of my high maintanence please keep them to yourself .. haha! just kidding... I would love to hear from you :)


Julie